拒绝大多数建议
拒绝大多数建议
大多数建议不过是别人在告诉你他们的中奖彩票号码
Nivi:
被剪掉的一条推文是:
“避开那些快速致富的人。他们只是在告诉你他们的中奖彩票号码。”
Naval:
这对大多数建议来说通常是正确的。这可以追溯到Scott Adams——系统而非目标。如果你问一个成功人士什么对他们有效,他们经常会读出对他们有效的那套具体方法,但这可能不适用于你。他们只是在向你念出他们的中奖彩票号码。
这有点轻率。确实有值得学习的东西,但你不能把他们具体的情况直接套用到你的情况上。我认识的最好的创始人都阅读和倾听每个人的意见。但随后他们会忽略所有人,自己做出决定。
他们有自己的内部模型,知道如何将事物应用到自己的情况中。而且他们毫不犹豫地丢弃信息。如果你调查足够多的人,所有的建议都会相互抵消为零。
你必须有自己的观点。当有信息传递给你时,你必须快速决定:这是真的吗?在对方应用它的情境之外,这还是真的吗?在我的情境中这是真的吗?然后,我想要应用它吗?
你必须拒绝大多数建议。但你必须倾听足够多的建议,阅读足够多的建议,才知道该拒绝什么、接受什么。
即使在这个播客中,你也应该审视一切。如果某件事让你觉得不真实,就把它放下。把它放在一边。如果太多事情看起来不真实,就删除这个播客。
建议提供的是轶事,供你在获得自己的经验后回忆
Nivi:
我认为接受建议最危险的部分是,给你建议的人不会在你身边告诉你什么时候它不再适用了。
Naval:
我对建议目的的看法与大多数人有点不同。我认为它帮助我拥有一些轶事和格言,当我有了自己的直接经验时,我可以回忆起这些并说:
“啊,原来那个人是这个意思。”
我90%的推文都是格言,它们成为心理钩子,在我再次遇到那种情况时提醒我。
比如,“哦,是我自己发推说’如果你无法想象自己与某人共事一生,那就不要与他们共事一天。’” 一旦我知道十年后我不会与某人共事,我就必须开始从那关系中抽身,或者减少在那关系上的投入。
我用推文来压缩我自己的学习成果。 你的大脑空间是有限的。你有有限的神经元。你可以把这些看作是指针、地址、助记符,帮助你记住那些有底层经验支撑的深层原则。
如果你没有底层经验,那么它读起来就像是一堆引言的集合。很酷。能给你一时的启发。也许你可以用它做一张漂亮的海报。但随后你就会忘记它,继续前进。
这些是你回忆自己知识的紧凑方式。
Reject Most Advice
Most advice is people giving you their winning lottery ticket numbers
Nivi:
One of the tweets from the cutting-room floor was:
“Avoid people who got rich quickly. They’re just giving you their winning lottery ticket numbers.”
Naval:
This is generally true of most advice. It goes back to Scott Adams — systems not goals. If you ask a successful person what worked for them, they often read out the exact set of things that worked for them, which might not apply to you. They’re just reading you their winning lottery ticket numbers.
It’s a little glib. There is something to be learned, but you can’t take their exact circumstance and map it onto yours. The best founders I know read and listen to everyone. But then they ignore everyone and make up their own mind.
They have their own internal model of how to apply things to their situation. And they do not hesitate to discard information. If you survey enough people, all of the advice will cancel to zero.
You have to have your own point of view. When something is sent your way, you have to quickly decide: Is it true? Is it true outside of the context of how that person applied it? Is it true in my context? And then, Do I want to apply it?
You have to reject most advice. But you have to listen to enough of it, and read enough of it, to know what to reject and what to accept.
Even in this podcast, you should examine everything. If something doesn’t feel true to you, put it down. Set it aside. If too many things seem untrue, delete this podcast.
Advice offers anecdotes to recall later, when you get your own experience
Nivi:
I think the most dangerous part of taking advice is that the person who gave it to you isn’t going to be around to tell you when it doesn’t apply any more.
Naval:
I view the purpose of advice a little differently than most people. I view it as helping me have anecdotes and maxims that I can recall when I have my own direct experience and say,
“Ah, that’s what that person meant.”
Ninety percent of my tweets are maxims that become mental hooks to remind me when I’m in that situation again.
Like, “Oh, I’m the one who tweeted, ‘If you can’t see yourself working with someone for life, then don’t work with them for a day.’”
As soon as I know I’m not going to be working with someone 10 years from now, then I have to start extricating myself from that relationship or investing less effort in it.
I use tweets to compress my own learnings.
Your brain space is finite. You have finite neurons. You can think of these as pointers, addresses, mnemonics to help you remember deep-seated principles where you have the underlying experience to back it up.
If you don’t have the underlying experience, then it reads like a collection of quotes. It’s cool. It’s inspirational for a moment. Maybe you make a nice poster out of it. But then you forget it and move on.
These are compact ways for you to recall your own knowledge.