没有物质舒适也能获得幸福,但这是困难模式
没有物质舒适也能获得幸福,但这是困难模式
Naval: 你可以在没有财富的情况下获得幸福。我们大多数人都认识到,你无法用金钱买到幸福。但在现代,你可以用金钱摆脱常见的不幸福原因。财富可以给你自由和更多时间。它可以给你平静。
放弃物质并非通往幸福的轻松途径
在古代,寻找平静的途径之一是成为僧侣。你会放弃一些东西——性、住所、金钱和其他物质依恋——然后走进森林。也许30年后你会找到一些平静,那时你终于接受了不会拥有这些东西的事实。但事实是,他们中的大多数人可能从未真正接受。世界上有很多僧侣,但开悟的人却不多。
满足物质需求比放弃它们更容易
奥修曾说过类似这样的话:“每次我遇到妓女,她都想谈论上帝。而每次我遇到牧师,他却想谈论性。“无论你否认自己什么,那都会成为你的新牢笼。
如今,满足你对物质舒适的渴望实际上比放弃它更容易。你可能需要一辈子来放弃物质舒适,而且可能仍然无法成功。但你可以在不到一辈子的时间里赚到一些钱,并在物质上取得成功。
你可以在没有物质舒适的情况下获得幸福,而且那可能是一种更持久的幸福形式。但那是困难模式。
当你生病时,欲望就会消失
身体健康是一切的基础。如果你没有健康,你就一无所有。我喜欢的一句孔子名言:“病者只求一物,健者欲求万物。“当你生病时,你的欲望就会消失。没有起床和行动的能力,你就无法成为那个充满欲望的机器。
虽然身体健康是最重要的,但我很少谈论它,因为这是我最缺乏具体知识的领域。在这方面我还没有自我实现。我的身体状况尚可,饮食也还可以。我理解身体健康的理论,但除非我自己是身体健康的典范,否则我会觉得向你提供建议是欺骗。
我已经从一个不快乐的人变成了非常快乐的人
在财富方面,我更加自我实现。在心理健康方面——寻找幸福和平静——我已经从一个大部分时间不快乐的人变成了非常快乐的人。这是有意识的。这是通过实践和努力实现的。这是通过领悟发生的。因为我取得了进步,所以我可以告诉你什么对我有效。
Happiness Without Material Comfort Is Playing on Hard Mode
Naval: You can achieve happiness without financial wealth. Most of us recognize you’re not going to buy your way to happiness. But in modern times, you can buy your way out of common causes of unhappiness. Financial wealth can give you freedom and more time. It can give you peace.
Renouncing things is not an easy path to happiness
In olden times, one of the routes to finding peace was becoming a monk. You would renounce things—sex, shelter, money and other material attachments—and go off in the woods. You might find some peace after 30 years, when you’d finally gotten over the fact that you weren’t going to have these things. The truth is, most of them probably never got over it. There are lots of monks out there but there aren’t a lot of enlightened people.
It’s easier to fulfill your material needs than to renounce them
It was Osho who said, essentially: “Every time I meet a prostitute, she wants to talk about God. And every time I meet a priest, he wants to talk about sex.” Whatever you deny yourself will become your new prison.
Today it’s actually easier to fulfill your desire for material comfort than it is to renounce it. It’ll take you a lifetime to renounce material comfort, and it still might not work. But you can make some money and be materially successful in less than a lifetime.
You can achieve happiness without material comfort, and it probably would be a more lasting form of happiness. But that’s playing on hard mode.
When you’re sick, your desires run away
Physical health is the foundation of everything. If you don’t have your physical health, you have nothing. A Confucius saying I like: “A sick man only wants one thing, a healthy man wants 10,000 things.” When you’re sick, your desires run away. Without the ability to get up and function, you can’t turn into the desiring machine that you are.
Although physical health is the most important, I speak the least about it because it’s the area where I have the least specific knowledge. I am not self-actualized in that regard. I’m in OK shape and have an OK diet. I understand the theories of physical health, but I would feel fraudulent offering it to you unless I were a paragon of physical health myself.
I’ve gone from being unhappy to being very happy
In wealth, I’m much more self-actualized. And on the mental health side—finding happiness and peace—I’ve gone from being a mostly unhappy person to being very happy. That was deliberate. It was practiced and effort-based. It happened through realizations. Because I made progress, I can tell you what worked for me.