幸福是动态的宁静
幸福是动态的宁静
幸福是动态的宁静
宁静是静止的幸福
Naval: 在某些方面,现代生活比史前时代更加忙碌。我们的压力来源更加持久。
让我们来定义压力。从物理角度来说,当某物想要同时处于两个位置时,就会产生压力。如果我对铁梁的两端施加压力,我就会在梁上产生应力,因为一部分想要向北,另一部分想要向南。
压力是无法决定什么是重要的
从心理角度来说,压力是无法决定什么是重要的。你同时想要两个不相容的东西。我想要放松,但我需要工作。现在我感到压力。
当你放弃某件事时,它就不再带来压力。当你接受某件事超出你的控制范围时,就没有必要为此感到压力。
头脑不断制造压力,让你比实际情况更加偏执或愤怒。
你想要从头脑中找到宁静。你并不是要关闭大脑。你无法压制头脑或强迫它做任何事情。如果我说:“不要想白象”,你就会想到白象。相反,你想要开发工具,让你的头脑能够自行平静下来。然后,压力自然会消失。
你该怎么做?你如何最终拥有一个更平静的头脑?
宁静是静止的幸福
我喜欢这句话:“宁静是静止的幸福;幸福是动态的宁静。“一个在静止时宁静的人,在活动时会最终感到幸福。而一个幸福的人在静坐时会感到宁静。最终目标不是幸福,尽管我们经常使用这个词。目标是宁静。
所以问题变成了:你如何达到宁静?
达到宁静的第一个问题是,没有任何活动能让你到达那里。从根本上说,宁静就是无为;是一种一切都好的感觉。
如果一切都好,你就不会做任何身体或精神上的活动来改变它。你也不会希望自己在做些什么来改变它,因为那会产生压力。
你无法朝着宁静努力,只能追求理解
你无法直接实现宁静,甚至无法朝着它努力。相反,你可以朝着理解努力。有一句古老的锡克教谚语:“上帝的名字是真理。“当你理解某些事物并且它们成为你的一部分时,你自然会成为一个更宁静的人。
Happiness Is Peace in Motion
Happiness Is Peace in Motion
Peace is happiness at rest
Naval: In some ways, modern life is more hectic than prehistoric times. Our sources of stress are more chronic.
Let’s define stress. In physical terms, stress happens when something wants to be in two places at one time. If I apply pressure to both ends of an iron beam, I create stress on the beam because one part wants to be north and the other part wants to be south.
Stress is an inability to decide what’s important
In mental terms, stress is an inability to decide what’s important. You want two incompatible things at once. I want to relax, but I need to work. Now I’m under stress.
When you give up on something, it’s no longer stressful. When you accept that something’s out of your control, there’s no point in getting stressed about it.
The mind constantly creates stress, making you more paranoid or angry than situations warrant.
You want to find peace from mind. You aren’t turning off your brain. You can’t suppress the mind or force it to do anything. If I say, “Don’t think of a white elephant,” you’ll think of a white elephant. Rather, you want to develop tools so your mind can calm down on its own. Then, stress will go away naturally.
How do you do that? How do you end up with a more peaceful mind?
Peace is happiness at rest
Here’s a phrase I like: “Peace is happiness at rest; happiness is peace in motion.” Someone who’s peaceful at rest will end up happy when they do an activity. While a happy person sitting idle will be peaceful. The ultimate goal is not happiness, even though we use that term a lot. The goal is peace.
So the question becomes: How do you get to peace?
The first problem with attaining peace is that no activity will get you there. Fundamentally, peace is inactivity; it’s a sense that everything is fine.
If everything is fine, you’re not doing any physical or mental activity to change it. You’re also not wishing you were doing something to change it, because that creates stress.
You cannot work toward peace, only understanding
You cannot achieve peace directly or even work toward it. Rather, you can work toward understanding. There’s an old Sikh saying, “The name of God is truth.” When you understand certain things and they become a part of you, you naturally become a more peaceful person.